My name is Şirin and I am a Mindful Parenting Coach, a Holistic Life Coach and an unschooling mother of two, as well as the author of the Innate Parenting Blog.
I offer guidance (with plenty of proven, useful tools) to parents who wish to raise their children in a conscious and loving way. I empower parents on their journey to heal their own childhood wounds and traumas, break the cycles for future generations and align with their natural parenting instincts.
For more details on the coaching I offer visit my main website Innate Living.
There is no such thing as the perfect parent or person (myself included). We are all on our unique (as well as collective) journeys of learning and doing the best we can with the experiences and tools that we ourselves were given. As the saying goes – ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ – so it is perfectly natural and necessary for us to want support and guidance whilst we are on this journey (especially in this system where that village is often non existent).
“Parenting has nothing to do with perfection. Perfection isn’t even the goal, not for us, not for our children. Learning together to live well in an imperfect world, loving each other despite or even because of our imperfections, and growing as humans while we grow our little humans, those are the goals of gentle parenting. So don’t ask yourself at the end of the day if you did everything right. Ask yourself what you learned and how well you loved, then grow from your answer. That is perfect parenting.” – L.R. Knost
MORE ABOUT ME
I am a qualified Breastfeeding Peer Supporter, I have a BA (Hons) Degree in Sociology, and before becoming a coach I worked for several charities and organisations offering various degrees of support to refugees, asylum seekers, detainees, foreign national prisoners, students and social workers. I have a Life Coaching Diploma and have completed several coaching and personal development courses by Dr Gabor Maté, Preston Smiles, Alison Armstrong, to name a few!
I am also inspired by Authors and Parenting Coaches L.R.Knost, Dr Laura Markham, Alfie Kohn, Sarah Ockwell-Smith, The Parenting Junkie and many more. Yet my biggest education has come from being a mother to an amazing toddler; who has positively changed my world and challenges me daily to break my own cycles and strive to be the best that I can be.
I initially decided to write about parenting after my personal experiences as a first-time mother. I became frustrated at the lack of support, decent information and guidance available to parents. I was disappointed to realise that the attitudes towards parenting (especially in Western Societies) have shifted so far from our natural, evolutionary and innate ways; which I believe is the root of all the problems we are experiencing in our current world. I was also saddened to realise that the subject of parenting has become an extremely sensitive one, with people avoiding an open and honest dialogue, at the risk of parents feeling ‘judged’ and ‘shamed’. So, I began reading and researching to find out where we went wrong. This made me even more passionate about the subject, which is how I began my blog.
Since starting my blog, I have delved massively into my own journey of self-reflection and self-development. This has in a huge way shifted my attitude towards myself, other people and the world we live in. I have shifted in my feelings of anger and frustration, to compassion and wanting to understand why society has become so disconnected and reacting from fear. This has inspired me even more to share my own experiences and knowledge with the world; in order to inform and empower people to make it a better and more loving place.
You may here this often… but there truly is nothing else in this world that will test and teach you to question and look at yourself quite like becoming a parent! Due to not wanting to continue the cycles of my own childhood wounds (and EVERYONE has them, just look up Gabor Mate’s work!), I have embraced the opportunity of allowing my child to teach me how to be a better person and parent. This has added a new dimension to my passion and drive for guiding and supporting others and challenging the status quo. I have realised that my soul’s purpose is to empower parents to dig deep, lean into and trust their intuition, and find their higher self. Having a life coach had such a huge positive impact on me, my life and my family, that I instantly knew I wanted to become a coach myself and support people in the best way that I can.